Talk me through it.
On being a lover of words of affirmation in all forms.
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“Do you want to play a game?” he asks.
We’ve been talking on the app and texting for a few days, and now we’re on the phone, having a little chat before we meet. I don’t always care to do this because I’m not a phone person, but I oblige anyway because he’s cute.
“Sure!” I respond, wondering what he’s going to suggest. We’ve already been in a natural rhythm of conversation and I’ve beaten him twice at iMessage Connect 4.
“It’s a question game. I ask you a question, you answer, then you ask me a question and I answer,” he says excitedly.
“So you mean 21 questions?” I say, slightly annoyed that it sounds as if he’s just rebranded the age-old break-the-ice activity.
“No, no. In 21 questions, you ask back and forth. In this one, we answer the same question and...” As he explains, I realize I misheard him and continue listening to the rules. “Here, I’ll start. What are your top three love languages? And why. Now you answer.”
“Oh, that’s an easy one, words of affirmation, acts of service…”
“Aht aht! We have to go back and forth remember? You give one answer, and I provide another. Words of affirmation, why?”
“Oooh okay, I’m getting it now, well words of affirmation because I am a lover of words, of course. I am an emotional being who loves written expressions of love and appreciation. I’m also a recovering people-pleaser so I love knowing I’m doing a good job. But we’ll talk about that another time.”
“Oh, words of affirmation huh? So you’d like it if I had you in missionary slow-stroking while looking in your eyes and saying ‘You’re taking Daddy’s dick like a good girl?’”
I instantly melt. This man is trouble. Dangerous. But, he wasn’t wrong. I love to be talked through it.
My body viscerally reacted to his question which instantly planted a picture in my mind. His previous red flags look more like Six Flags and I am anticipating the ride….
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Currently.
Feeling — Today I’m pretty, meh. I’m okay, not good or bad. Just—meh.
Reading — As of right now I’ve finished six books this month and have started and stopped four others. Right now I’m feeling out “Disrupted: My Misadventures In The Startup Bubble” and have decided to pause “Nonviolent Communication.”
Listening — A blended playlist with a new friend.
Anticipating — Hearing back about the final round of interviews.
Contemplating — What to eat.
Affirming — My words are needed in this world.
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